I love meeting new people. New people take me to places I’ve never been before, teach me new things and make me more open-minded. Some people only (want to) know the same type of people. I don’t.
According to Gallup’s strengths finder test, I’m a real WOO’er. A what now? A woo’er… WOO stands short for: Winning Over Others. First reaction: ‘Damn do I like to bribe people? Or worse; am I one of those typical greaseballs that everyone just loves to hate? That’s not a strength at all!’
According to the definition it just means that I “… enjoy the challenge of meeting new people and getting them to like you” (greaseball alert!!). Note: I don’t want to meet every stranger and make them like me. Hell no, I hate it when people act like they like you and then just talk behind your back. It gives me the heebie-jeebies. (Un)fortunately my face is so expressive that you can immediately tell if I don’t like you or what you have to say. Pretty open book right here.
Plus I’m not always in the mood to meet a new face. Meeting a stranger when you’re waiting for someone; yes. Meeting a stranger through a friend/acquaintance/colleague; double yes! Meeting a total stranger in a total new environment.. Hm, let me do the check first: 1) Is he/she drunk? 2) Does he/she want to rob you, hook you up with one of his/her friends or hit on you in the most terrible way? If all of the above answers are no and the subject has anything interesting to say, then it’s a yay. If not, a total nay.
“Strangers are rarely intimidating to you. On the contrary, strangers can be energizing. You are drawn to them.” What? No, not all of them! How many times don’t I think: ‘Creep, be gone! FAST!’ Let me refer you to the ‘check list’.
“In your world there are no strangers, only friends you haven’t met yet—lots of them.” OK total hippie, peace, love and fluffy vibe going on here. Urgh. There are just some strangers that should stay strangers. Forever… I’m really starting to take this analysis with a grain of salt.
“… you derive satisfaction from breaking the ice and making a connection. Once that connection is made, you are quite happy to wrap it up and move on.” I’m not only a hippie (nothing wrong with hippies, just don’t consider myself one them), but a shallow one as well! Reassured myself by knowing that I’d rather have a few good friends, than knowing loads of strangers I just meet and move on. Truth be told, I used to be a winner in sending out the wrong signals. Let me make it loud and clear: It’s not because I have to laugh with your jokes, that I want to sleep with you and/or want to become your new BFF. It ONLY means that I’m an easy crowd and think you’re funny!
In the end I guess I just like to network. If that’s WOO then so be it. However, whenever you WOO, be true to yourself (don’t be that greaseball!) and maintain contact with the relationships you’ve established. I wonder how many of my facebook friends I actually talk to oftenly… Or is your network just a little black book that you can open whenever you need it? I’ve often come to realize that it’s true what they say: it’s not about what you know, but who you know. Happy to admit that I’ve taken some nice turns in my life thanks to the people I’ve met. I wouldn’t like to change anything about it. So here’s to WOO! I just need to learn how to remember their names…